This gives me immense pleasure to announce that I am a successful home-maker despite the fact that I was never ‘trained’ for becoming one and my brother cooks for himself and washes his clothes apart from being a CA. If you are a woman born in India, you can very well relate to whatever I am trying to say here.
Ever wondered why your brother got ghee-laden parathas while you got rotis?
Ever felt bad about waking up early to help your mom with the chores while your brother wakes up at his own sweet time?
Ever thought why you have to serve the glass of water to the guests and not your brother?
Why it is that boys don’t have to wash their clothes because there are women in the house to do that job?
Our grandmothers taught our fathers that it’s not his “job” to help women in the house with the daily chores. The tradition passed on to us and now it’s on us to keep up with patriarchy or break the norms and teach our sons what ‘gender equality’ actually means.
Ariel India has started #ShareTheLoad movement to make the sons of India convert their Sundays into SON-days by helping their moms with the laundry.
Kudos, Ariel India! That’s the kind of change we need now!
When I was a little girl, I was shocked to hear that girls are trained to do household chores and not allowed to pursue education or career of their choice. That was the moment I decided that if I ever have a son, I am going to teach him how to take care of himself and not depend on a woman who has sacrificed her precious childhood learning how to make perfect round rotis for her future family. Fortunately, I am a mother of a 1.5-year-old son who is so keen on helping his mother, that is me, with the chores. I thought this is the perfect time to teach him about sharing the load so that he grows up as an ‘equal’ and not as a ‘privileged’ member of the house.
I know he is too young to understand big terms like ‘gender-equality’ and this task would be just another fun game in his eyes. But, the values I am trying to teach him at this tender age is significant. I am trying to make him understand that it’s not okay to think that women are there to wash clothes or cook for men.